Loving Your Wife Sacrificially In The Little Things
As men we are far too often guilty of putting our own needs and wants ahead of those of our wives. It’s so easy to become selfish and lazy in our marriages – especially when life is stressful or the relationship is struggling. It’s also easy to let the constant demands of our children, our jobs or businesses, and even our churches and ministries come before our relationships with our wives – but God is pretty clear through scripture that this should never be!
This article from Matthew White serves as a good reminder to focus our attention on loving and serving our wives as our highest family priority, and how even the little things can make a big difference. It’s a quick read, but worth a few minutes of your time – especially the final paragraph. Enjoy!
– Kent Eimers
by Matthew J. White
Get the full article from Focus on the Family here
It’s 5:21 in the morning, and the alarm goes off. I roll over and hit the snooze button in hopes of just nine more minutes of sleep before the day begins. At 5:24, my two-year-old quietly – his version of quietly, anyway – enters the room and approaches the bed. I pretend to still be asleep so he’ll walk to the other side and crawl in with Anne (Failure #1).
Once in bed, Ian, our youngest son, starts in with his two-year-old version of whispering. I roll over and pull the covers tight to subtly tell Anne and Ian to keep it down (Failure #2). After a few minutes in that position, I realize he’s not going to be quiet or lay still – which both of us have asked him to do several times. I groggily slither out of bed and head for the closet to get dressed so I can take Ian downstairs.
When I get downstairs, I pull out some muffins and milk for Ian and then head to the basement to watch whatever is on TV at 5:30 a.m. so I can lie down for a few more minutes. I decide I’ll get Anne’s coffee in a little bit (Failure #3).
In just seven minutes, I’ve failed to show my wife love in the same way Jesus loves me! It may seem harsh to beat myself up like this, right? Wrong!
If I was really intentional about loving my wife like Jesus loves me, I would have 1) hopped out of bed to try and catch Ian before he woke Anne; 2) taken him into the closet with me while I got dressed, so not to bother his mom; and 3) started the coffee and made Anne a cup so it was waiting when she got up to get in the shower.
Did you see yourself in my situation? If you don’t have kids or it’s been some time since you were there, you can make up another circumstance. This same mentality, where it’s much easier to do the selfish thing, can creep into every part of your day. But, Jesus has set an example for us to follow. And, the first place he wants us to put this into place is in our marriage…